Disclosure: This post will have a bunch of product links to the items I use. They are all affiliate links on Amazon. That means if you end up clicking through and buying them, I’ll get a few cents. Thought you should know…
In this page you will find the complete list of everything I keep in my “kink bag”. This is just to save me time. I get asked a lot about kink/fetish stuff and people want to know what products to buy. I’ve tried a lot, below is what I like and use on a regular basis. As I discover new things I’ll definitely add them to this list so I can get my commish!
Such a great book. Awesome photography. This is how I first started learning knot tying and I still reference it regularly when I get tied up with a knot (pun intended). These two guys really know their stuff and deliver the goods without any fluff. I travel with this book and just throw it on whatever coffee table is near. Great conversation starter at dinner parties. You’ll probably want this for the next few items to be of much practical use.
This is 100 feet of serious rope! For tying girls up I always use braided nylon rope. It’s soft and smooth on the skin. Also, since it’s braided you’re able to twist it to make it smaller/tighter this comes in handy sometimes on more complicated knots especially if you have trouble undoing a complicated knot. It’s safer in my opinion. But it’s heavy duty as well. This rope could definitely be used (and has been) for full body suspension harnesses. Great all purpose rope.
This rope is half the length of the one above. I use this more for general tying up and binding during play. Works for any knots but if I’m doing a full body harness or any sort of suspension ties I pull out the 100 ft rope as it’s thicker & more smooth. This is my quick access, tie up some wrists and ankles, rope.
Do not even consider tying someone up if you do not have a pair of these at ready access. If your partner panics or a knot gets stuck and is hurting them this will cut through the rope easily. Absolutely required!
I think crops are one of the best tools to introduce someone to the idea of pain as an erotic stimulant. You can just give it to them and let them crop their forearm a bit to understand the reaction and see if they like it. Then you can step in and do it for them. Getting cropped was the first experience I ever had that made me think, “hmm there might be something to this weird kink stuff”. I’m not remotely into getting whipped or beat or tied up. But I think it’s something you need to experience at least in a training environment to understand what your partner will be feeling. This is a great, cheap crop. I keep mine hanging by my bed.
I’m not that big into pain, but a whip is an essential part of any bag in my opinion. This is pretty mild as far as leather whips go. It can deliver a little stinging but won’t seriously hurt. Good introductory whip if you’re not familiar with using them. Be careful anyways.
This might be my favorite product, ever. It’s not much bigger than a dry erase marker, runs on two double A batteries, and fits easily in your pocket. I’ve gotten uniformly positive feedback from the girls I’ve tried it out with. I keep a couple in my bag in case of emergencies. I also have the bigger version for other similar purposes!
I don’t use this much.Usually just as an impromptu gag to tape the mouth shut (which I rarely do). I prefer to use rope. But… You should always keep some tape around :).
This is actually just a sleeping mask. I use it for sleeping. However, it serves a double purpose by being an excellent blindfold. I keep a few lying around. I can’t recommend it enough as a sleeping mask, the best I have ever used, simply perfect. As a kink blind fold, well it get’s the job done quite nicely.
My default condom. Not that I’ve tried them all and this is the best or anything. I’ve used a few brands, this one got great reviews. I have had no complaints. Especially when used in combination with the next item.
This is an area where I have used a multitude of brands. This one wins, wins, wins. I have a 16 oz bottle that I travel with. I don’t want to do a whole silicone based lube market dissection, so I’ll leave it at, this is great lube. (Note: Of course you know that you shouldn’t use silicone lube on silicone toys, but in case you don’t here is a reminder).
That all get’s stuck in here. Good, affordable duffel bag. 24″ is about the right size to contain everything listed here, and you’ll have some extra space.